Singleness: Contentment and Desire
Singleness is hard! That’s all I have to say… just kidding. But singleness can be challenging regardless of what ever season of singleness you may be in;
Stages of Singleness:
Single and Whatever Happens, Happens
Single and Desiring a Relationship
Single and Not Interested in a Relationship During This Time
I have personally been in each stage of singleness and I am currently at the place where I am desiring a healthy Christ-centered relationship. While I am desiring a relationship I am also content with the season that I am in and truly believe that we can be content, desire, and be hopeful.
I have heard different people regarding singleness say “ Don’t worry about a relationship”, “Enjoy your singleness, and then the relationship will come”, or “ The relationship will come when you least expect it” and while these phrases that people say are meant to be helpful often times that can diminish the very real hope a desire that some of us have for a relationship. Now I do think that we should pursue contentment during our singleness and enjoy the time that we have to the best of our ability but I also think that we should be honest about our desires for a healthy relationship, marriage, and yes even sex especially if you are trying to pursue purity. Trying to act like we don’t have desires isn’t helpful in fact it can make matters worse leading you to make unwise decisions, or enter into a toxic relationship.
With all that said it’s time to be honest with yourself, your friends or family but most importantly with God. He cares about our singleness and desires and he wants to walk with you during this season of life regardless if you are single and not ready for a relationship or single and desiring a relationship the Lord sees you and I see you too!
Let’s pursue contentment and be truthful about the emotions and desires that come with singleness.
If you want to hear more about my thoughts on singleness, contentment, and desire listen to this week's podcast episode.
With Love,